EMPATHY MASTERCLASS
FOR MEN
4 Barriers to Authentic Empathy
1.
Emotional Lock Down
For some of us, we just don't feel much of anything. We're sort of numb. and when the situation calls for empathy we are just blank.
"I'm just numb."
2.
Emotions are a Mystery
For some of us we actually feel something, but we can't name it. It simply comes down to identifying emotions. I hear so many guys say they struggle to name their own feelings, much less what their wife is feeling.
"I feel, but struggle to name my own feelings, much less what my wife is feeling."
3.
Entering the Shame Spiral
When we begin to genuinely feel the pain we’ve caused the people we love, we are overwhelmed by it. Rather than lean into being more present to her pain, we get swirled down into our own shame. That usually results in anger or shutting down. Both dissolve our empathy.
4.
Inability to Communicate
Finally, sometimes the barrier isn’t feeling or naming the emotions, but actually communicating in a way that doesn’t sound empty, patronizing, scripted or formulaic. The feelings are really in there but they just come across the wire wrong.
“He just says what he knows he’s supposed to say at that moment, but he doesn’t actually feel it”
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If any of these strike a chord then this class is for you!
This Empathy Masterclass is designed to give you a fresh perspective on the pain our wives feel and help you leverage your own pain to connect with hers. I want you to have a framework for communicating these thoughts and emotions. I want to give you a chance to get your true intentions across. And I want to empower you to see the opportunities empathy provides to be a conduit of healing rather than another iteration of destruction.
UPGRADING EMPAHTY
How It Works
For Wives
What to expect if your husband takes the class:
He has better resilience to enter into your pain without slipping into the shame spiral, getting angry and/or shutting down
He grows in understanding the connections between past and present pain, and how empathy provides healing for all of it
He sees more clearly the layers/facets of how his actions have affected you
He understands his role in the redemptive process
He develops the ability to name and articulate his emotions
He is safer to share your heart with
DISCLAIMER
There are no quick-fixes. Empathy takes dedication and perseverance. It's a process. I'm going to give you the tools and show you how to use them to upgrade empathy. But you have to do the work!
When is it?
The class is a 4-week commitment and meets all of the following days:
Tuesday, May 7th 2024 - 5:15pm - 6:15pm CDT
Tuesday, May 14th 2024 - 5:15pm - 6:15pm CDT
Tuesday, May 21st 2024 - 5:15pm - 6:15pm CDT
Tuesday, May 28th 2024 - 5:15pm - 6:15pm CDT
Who is it for?
Men committed to developing empathy after betrayal.
How is it hosted?
Live Webinar
This means you’ll need to be sitting in front of your computer/tablet/device (ideally not a phone because it will be too difficult to see the diagrams), with audio and video enabled, free from distraction or other commitments. This is not a “call in and listen” situation, where you can participate on your commute or while engaged in other activities.
What’s expected of you:
Complete the homework assigned
Engage with a willing heart and be open to a different point of view on empathy
Whats expected of us:
Employing a No Shame Zone: everyone is safe to share without judgement
Teaching you what you need to know and not a bunch of extra overwhelming information
Give you tools for practical application
To the best of our ability, nuance the concepts to fit your unique situation
Investment
$500
Privacy & Confidentially: The classes are educational, group events. I cannot guarantee your privacy or confidentiality during this class. While no one on the call will see you, they will hear your voice and see your first name. You understand that participating in the class is at your own risk.
Who is teaching?
Meet Thomas Berry, RLCC
In 2012, after a decade of marriage, a successful career, two children with another on the way my double life of sexual addiction came to light. I was out of control. The process of finding freedom instantly became the fight of and for my life. Now, 8 years after being found out, I am celebrating a life and marriage better than I could have ever imagined; built on the foundation of Jesus, with an awakened heart and pursuit of integrity. For the past several years, I have been walking with other men helping them along their journey towards sexual integrity. I work full time as a Redemptive Living Certified Coach and also have been in a pastoral role at Grace Fellowship in Paducah, KY for the past two years. I’m committed to helping other men who have struggled with sexual integrity issues live the life God intended through doing the hard work of recovery.
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